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How to keep your new year’s resolutions

07/01/2015
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Happy New Year, everyone!

A new year is always a chance to do better than the previous year, to take on new challenges, to find new opportunities and to make some new resolutions. I often hear people saying that they don’t make new year’s resolutions but still they keep hoping for a better job, a better health, better relationships or simply a better life.

Choose your resolutions wisely
Picking few resolutions is better than many small where you would lose track of them. Prefer a resolution that would bring important and significant benefits in your life, something that really matters to you.

Choose a resolution to improve your life
Make the changes for your sake, to feel better, to respond an internal need. Don’t make changes because people wants/advise you to. Those kind of changes don’t stick and the chances of failure are much more important. Put your needs first. If people tell you to lose weight, to get a better job, I don’t tell you to not listen to them but take a resolution if you feel it is right for you.

Give up the “Should”
Don’t formulate your resolution in terms “I should….”. When you say “should” it’s already something that you don’t want to do. It’s hard for me to imagine myself committing to such a goal. I feel unmotivated and disempowered facing a “should”. It sounds like something you didn’t choose and people imposed it to you. Take the responsibility of your resolution. Formulate your resolution in an uplifting way, make them positive, fun, fulfilling, challenging or whatever that is more inspiring you.
I should lose 10 kilos => I want to be healthy and eat healthier
I should sleep earlier => I want to have more energy to achieve my goals
I should learn Japanese => I want to discover and have a better understanding of Japanese culture

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First little step

23/12/2014
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In October 2013, I told my boss I wanted to change my career. I knew it was a major step for me to admit what I wanted. The next step was to take actions and look for my passions. But my wedding was planned for mid 2014, I needed to focus on it. So I’ve postponed the project to look for my passions after the wedding. I wanted to be committed to my self development. I knew it would take all my energy. I would need headspace for that. After the wedding, I still couldn’t take any actions.

First Step

As advised in the book Coach Yourself to Success , I have decided to look for a life coach to get some help. This task seemed utterly complicated to me because I would commit myself to the process of self development. It was unknown and out of my comfort zone. I was in a position where I knew what I didn’t want anymore but too scared to reach out and take responsibility for myself to improve my own life.

Until one day in August 2014, my husband gave me a reference of a coach in Paris that his colleague knew. Usually, when you face a difficult project it is advised to take one little step at a time. My little step was to send an email to that coach. It was just few lines. After the first email, the rest of the process came naturally. I couldn’t settle for a random coach. So I looked and contacted other coaches to compare. Soon, I had complimentary coaching sessions.

Change in action

To prepare myself for the coaching sessions, I felt that I needed to open my minded and gain confidence. I begun to read motivational and inspiring tips on self developments blogs and on Twitter. I’ve decided to tweet inspiring quotes @chenanna. This is how I gained energy and put myself in the right mindset to begin my self development. Continue Reading